We have a 17" monitor sitting in our living room. Hubby was supposed to hook it up for me a year ago. Alas, I am still using my 15" monitor and since hubby's monitor is now going out I am guessing he'll get the 17" next. After all, he needs it for gaming.
Anyway, the boys are currently sitting on the floor in front of the monitor (not hooked up to anything) deciding what "game" to play. Biggest suggests Star Wars. Littlest asks if he'll set it to 2 players. Biggest says, "No". And begins to stare at the blank screen while tapping his fingers on the rubbermaid bin it is sitting on (the keyboard). Littlest cries out at the injustice. Biggest relents and scoots over. Now both boys are engaged in a battle against the dark side with a blank monitor and imaginary keyboard. It starts so young. I'll have to apologize to their wives some day. I've tried. But I'm already losing the battle. They are too much like their dad.
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sounds like you need to set hubby straight. how much time is hubby spending on gaming? sounds very unhealthy to me. maybe a foot thru the monitor might start the ball rolling to a healthier marriage.
Anonymous. I don't suppose my husband playing on the computer is different than other husbands watching baseball for hours or tinkering with a car or working in a workshop. Everyone has a hobby that they use to relax. Mine happens to be of a more social nature but over our 14 years of marriage I have come to understand his hobby of choice. There are times I get irritated with the game (the only time I seriously considered taking out the monitor was when I was dealing with my own post-partum depression, and I was planning on using an axe on the thing, I chose to yell instead- same results, the computer got turned off) but there are times when he gets irritated with me talking on the phone. I use the term computer widow jokingly - as most other self-deemed "computer widows" do. My boys actually have very strict rules regarding their use of the computer. They are very good at imaginary play and I am always amazed at what they come up with . I thought the game was funny. Thanks for the concern and comments.
I guess what I see, from your story, is a hubby that doesn't have much interaction with his family. Maybe that is where your anger is coming from. Gaming for hours is unhealthy any way you look at it. Any thing done in excess, if he gets mad at you for being on the phone because its been a long time, is unhealthy. Of course blogging all the time seems a waste of time to me. When I do look at bloggs and see the number of responses, most of the time they are zero. I hope you aren't referring to blogging as your hobby of being a more social nature. There is nothing personal in blogging - to build a friendship with someone. Case in point, you don't know me and I don't know you. You throw out a blog, I respond, you come back with a response to my response. Still no relationship. Tell your hubby to turn off the computer, if you are a blogger - turn off the computer and the two of you have a hobby doing something together to relax!
Of course as I thought about what I just said, why would you listen because you don't know me.
No fears. I have quite the social life - to busy, in fact, and I don't consider this my relationships. See today's post.
Hubby and I have several hobbies together. We watch old movies together Saturday mornings, we take walks by the river - used to be runs or bike rides but until the kids are a bit bigger we walk, as a fmily. We love wine tasting and are both big readers (he is currently reading Thomas Merton, I am reading Thich Nhat Hanh, very complimentary authors). We love to discuss theology, philosophy, and politics and generally do so on a daily basis. We go gold panning as a family and to the lake. We both love food - he loves to cook, I enjoy eating it. We love good restaurants and coffee houses. We do pretty okay. He games when he has time. I blog when I have time. We are good together and we are good not attached at the hip.
You prove your own point, you don't know me and you don't know hubby but it is good to see how a few lines in a blog can put a picture in one's mind.
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